I’m always hearing people, especially entrepreneurs, talk about finding their balance in life.
As though there’s a recipe out there, and if we follow it carefully, we’ll eliminate chaos and concoct balance, harmony, and contentment. Like many others I talk to, I spent a lot of time feeling as though I had to adhere to a strict routine so I could find balance among all my competing priorities. However, this was extremely challenging and proved exhausting. I grew antsy and anxious, I felt uninspired, confined, and inhibited by the rules and boundaries I put on myself. I quickly learned that I am not a creature of routine. I simply prefer to take each day as it comes, moment by moment. I’ve found that finding balance is a daily practice of responding to personal and professional needs as they come up, listening to my intuition, and spending time with people I love.
Balance, for me, looks and feels different every day, and there are infinite ways to find it.
This is not to say that I am against routines in general. I think having some routines in life are so beneficial, and they help us feel organized and in control of our responsibilities. Routines are the closest thing we have in life to a how-to guide that helps us make decisions and avoid feeling lost. However, the point is to not bind yourself to strict rules and regulations, especially when they limit your own growth and progress. Additionally, it’s important not to hide behind your routines, using them as an excuse not to go after something you want, or rejecting new things out of fear of disruption, chaos, or unknowns.
When we are experiencing growth and progress, every day new opportunities arise, new obstacles emerge, and we must in respond by shifting our priorities.
I encourage you to try stepping outside of your routines for a few days. Relax into the changes life brings you, and consider them natural side effects of growth and progress. If you start to feel overwhelmed, take a few breaths, make a list, and reconsider your priorities of the day, knowing they may change tomorrow — and that’s okay. Balance is not a passive state of being. Like driving or swimming or climbing a staircase, balance involves active movement and assessment of what’s ahead.